7 ways to fight Depression


I usually prefer to write my own blog, but I thought thus one might help someone else today as it hopefully will help me! I read it and it makes senses so now I just have to try herder to actually re-read and do and follow some of these suggestions :
I found these in a magazine called “all woman’s talk” ! I hope it Heps you too!
7 WAYS TO OVERCOME DEPRESSION NATURALLY …
BY HEATHER WILLIAMS

Depression isn’t something most of us like to talk about, and ways to overcome depression are even harder to come by these days. Depression affects millions of women every single year, including teenagers. I began suffering depression when I was as young as 13 years old, and didn’t understand what was going on inside of me, or how to stop it. I thought it was my hormones, and I’m sure some of it was. However, the waves of depression lingered until I was 19 years old, in small pieces throughout my whole entire teenage life. When I went to college my first year, I was so overwhelmed with the changes, loneliness and uncertainty of my future, that I found myself in a full blown state of depression for two years, causing me to suffer panic attacks, extreme sadness, and the inability to cope with the loss of my friends moving away, a recent breakup, and my parents’ divorce, which all happened the same time I moved to college. I was terribly embarrassed and had no idea how to cope. At first, I began to take medications prescribed from my doctor, until I found none of them worked for me and only made me feel worse. I felt hopeless until I began to seek alternative, natural treatments instead, on my own. What I discovered amazed me and ultimately saved my life. While I can’t say these will work for everyone, I can tell you that they are definitely worth trying. I discovered true happiness, strength within myself, independence and an incredible zest for life after implementing all of these natural ways to overcome depression into my life. Ditching prescription meds for natural solutions was the best thing I ever did for my confidence, health and my mind. I wanted to share these with all of you so that if you ever find yourself in such a state, you can feel empowered with options to try before seeking medication. I am not a medical doctor, so as always, do what works for you, and talk to people you trust, including a trusted physician.

1. EXERCISE

Trust me, I know what it is like to not even be able to pick yourself up out of bed or off the floor in tears, much less to think of exercising as one of the best ways to overcome depression. In fact, I gained 20 pounds my first year of depression, and it wasn’t from the “Freshman 15.” I gained my weight from sadness, not from the cafeteria dining hall. I had never exercised much in my life outside of playing high school sports, and had just never seen the point. However, when I found myself overweight, I knew I had to do something. I started just walking 30 minutes a day and adding a few weight training exercises. Pretty soon, I found that it became a wonderful outlet for me to release anger, stress and even get an endorphin boost from something outside of food for once. Try to incorporate whatever exercise you can into your day. Don’t expect overnight results, but what you’ll find is that, over time, you begin to take pride in yourself because you’re exercising, and it rolls over into other areas of your life. Finally, I stopped seeing the need to diet and binge after I started exercising. It made me want to be healthy again, and it also warded off my bad moods. Sometimes I walked twice a day if it meant taking away my sadness. Do whatever you can, just do something.
2. EAT REGULAR MEALS

I never ate regular meals, especially during my darkest days of depression. What was the point? Well, for starters, eating regular meals, and healthy meals such as protein, healthy fats, fruits and veggies, provide your brain with natural medication to fight depression. Protein and fat are excellent for your mood, and veggies and fruits are key for nutritional support. Your brain can’t work efficiently if you’re not fueling it properly. During my worst, I was eating nothing all day and binge eating at night. If I did eat during the day, it was a diet protein bar, which was basically training me to live off processed diet foods. Don’t buy diet foods; just eat real food. Eat a piece of fruit and some yogurt for breakfast, or my favorite, a fun, pretty smoothie! Also, eat a large salad for lunch with some protein, or a healthy wrap with some protein and veggies in it. Snack on almonds, fruit and yogurt, and for dinner, make sure you get in some veggies and protein. Food can be medicine all by itself, especially when implemented with exercise.
3. WRITE THINGS OUT

When I was depressed, I really didn’t want to talk to anyone about what was going on. My mother was so worried, it clouded her ability to talk to me like an adult, and my school counselor didn’t know me well enough to know exactly what I felt inside. What I could do, however, was write out what I felt, even if just to myself. Sometimes I didn’t even know exactly what I felt until I wrote it out. When writing my words down on paper and seeing what I felt inside, I was then able to deal with what was going on inside me. I took out my feelings through exercising, writing and focusing on taking care of myself, even when I didn’t want to. No one ever read my writings except me, but just knowing that I had expressed them somehow did wonders for me. Later, I was able to talk to my mother about what I felt, because I knew exactly what was wrong, by being able to write things out.
4. CONSIDER FISH OIL

Not to sound like a crazy gimmick, but taking fish oil has done wonders for my mood and ability to fight depression. The Omega 3 content in fish oil pills is one of the best of all sources, and one of the most bioavailable sources. Omega 3 fatty acids have been proven to fight depression naturally. Fish oil is a wonderful source of these fats. I remember hearing this from Dr. Oz, and as crazy as it sounds, it worked for me, along with everything else I was doing included in this article. At the time, I didn’t like eating fish, but I was willing to take 4 fish oil capsules per day. Fish oil has been linked to diabetes prevention and heart disease prevention, but I found it worked extremely well for my depression by lifting my mood, and even improving my metabolism, which was terribly low from disordered eating. If you’re considering trying fish oil, which is also great for your skin by the way, then be sure to buy a nontoxic formula to avoid mercury exposure, such as Sundown Naturals brand. If you’re vegan, consider a plant-based Omega supplement, or try flax oil or hemp oil instead. Flaxseeds, chia seeds and hemp seeds are also wonderful foods to add to your diet for the same reasons. I eat all of these every single day.
5. DITCH THE SUGAR AND REFINED CARBS

I used to be so addicted to sugar, I might as well have been a spokesperson for Chewy Chips Ahoy cookies and Baskin Robbins ice cream. I couldn’t get enough of the sweet stuff, or the processed carbs. I had no idea what I was doing to my body or my brain by eating these foods. Sugar and refined carbohydrates are not only terrible for depression because they alter your mood and hormones, but they are also terrible for your weight and skin. My acne was out of control, as was my metabolism, and my mood was everywhere all the time. Once I took out the sugar and I started exercising, I noticed I felt like a new person. I had never felt so energized, and my mood had never felt so stable. I stopped craving junk food and started craving healthy foods like veggies, fruit and protein. It was a very strange feeling for someone who previously wouldn’t touch anything green. I finally felt like a whole person again and I haven’t looked back sense. Now when I want something sweet, I enjoy a little piece of dark chocolate or a fruit and nut bar like a Larabar to cure my sweet tooth. Ditch the sugar and refined carbs. Your body and mind will thank you for it!
6. CONSIDER 5HTP

If you’re new to what 5HTP is, then let me introduce you to a natural supplement that has done wonders for me. 5HTP is a chemical in the human body that naturally elevates your serotonin levels, much like antidepressants do. However, our natural levels of 5HTP can be depleted through anxiety, the foods we choose, or simply that our bodies don’t manufacture enough to help us beat depression. This is where taking a supplement has helped me. Natural brands that make 5HTP supplements such as NOW and Natrol are completely safe, and even can help you sleep better, which is always hard to do when you are depressed. I find that 5HTP is much cheaper online at sources like iHerb or Vitacost instead of in stores. I take one capsule in the morning with my breakfast everyday, and it has made a huge difference in my entire day, energy levels, and comes with no negative side effects. I noticed the changes in small ways, such as things didn’t bother me as much as normal, and my mood was just generally better. If you’re concerned with taking 5HTP, then be sure to research it before implementing it to make sure you are comfortable with it. I found out about this supplement through Doctor Julia Ross, who wrote The Mood Cure book, which even helped me overcome issues with disordered eating as well.
7. DON’T ISOLATE YOURSELF

This was one of the hardest things for me to learn how to do. I wanted nothing more than to be by myself when I was depressed. I learned quickly that I wasn’t getting anywhere by doing this for very long. Being by myself only made me feel more depressed about the state I was in at this point of my life. I had three people who made a huge difference in my life during this time, and without them, I wouldn’t have been able to make it through my depression. I have my mother and two co-workers to thank for getting me through the worst times of my life. Even if you don’t realize it at the time, just spending time with someone can help you feel better about life and your personal situation. Someone else may be able to give you insight that you may not have thought of before too. Don’t fight depression alone. Life is too short!

Depression is a very serious health condition that you should take action upon immediately. If you notice depression continuously lingering or lasting more than two weeks, please consider some of these natural options and also consider talking to a trusted physician about your depression. Have you ever struggled with depression or overcome it naturally on your own?

Sources: mayoclinic.com, moodcure.com

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Mothers & Daughters


Whenever I receive Private emails that start out mean or have any mean tone are deleted immediately and I truly have no desire or wondering in my mind about what they said before I deleted them! I also never open unknown named emails … So I am going to continue writing and reading here because I’ve met some of the most kind, caring & loving people on here! I’ve learned empathy for others far worse off than me and Ive gained much knowledge and many new friends here as well…
I only speak the truth, I’ve lost my whole biological family for speaking the truth. I’ve even lost friends … because although I wouldn’t say or do anything to purposely hurt someone , Some have sided with my family. I can take the truth as well as I want to speak the truth. If someone is getting hurt, and even if its me I won’t ever hurt feelings or hurt anyone in any way on purpose, by just being truthful or by saying something sarcastic or hurtful.
Anyways, I don’t know what brought that up but we are heading into “Mothers day” this weekend! My heart is so broken! My mother is dead and has been since 2002-Dec 22nd. My oldest daughter has estranged herself from me and us since she was graduated from HS. Only about 7 weeks after we’d had a graduation party for her! She went off with a boy who sold illegal substances , let alone was doing them and she was too! I tried to be a good mother! She was with an 18 yr old boy in 10th grade & I won’t go into details, but in trying to be a good mother, I grounded her from Homecoming that year and for a month at home. She could have friends over but she couldn’t go out for a month! For what she was doing, I thought that wasn’t even harsh! I wrote this boys mother a letter telling her to keep her 18 yr old son away from my 161/2 yr old daughter!” (*this boy had been removed from the cheer team at the HS & sent home from a Florida cheer contest event for smoking/selling pot!)… Sooo this mother then read my letter at his graduation party and everyone “made fun of me & laughed at me”, my oldest daughter told me!! She was there…at that party ..laughing at me too! She told me this afterwards. Anyways so much has happened since I confronted my parents re:the physical, verbal, emotional abuse ! My father & brothers treat me horribly abusive and I even have an ex sister in law who took the side of my abusers! But I feel she’s been abused also! If even just verbally, those scars can hurt very deeply!
Anyways ….I have no mom, I have lost my oldest daughter completely! As its been since 2004, when she left home. She married in Oct 2009! This would have been my first “Mothers Day” as a “Grandmother”! I dont get to meet, now almost 6mos old, “Olivia Lauren” or hold her or know her. I’ll tell you one thing for sure… I know that I would be the very best of grandmothers! I tried to be the very best mother I could be with what I was handed in life! I was guilty of giving too much attention and not saying “No” enough.. But I did say it when it counted for sure! Whenever I did say “No”, it counted or when/if it was harmful at all!
I wonder in 15 1/2 yrs from now when her daughter comes to her and asks for “permission” to do what my daughter wanted me to give her permission to do…..will my daughter say “yes” ..”it’s OK to do illegal & immoral things”!?? Will my daughters husband say to his daughter when she’s 16 yrs. old, “don’t worry if you get pregnant, we will adopt the baby”?????… I wonder? That’s what my ex husband (*her own father & his new wife …who had no stakes in the deal either way…said to her!) I really lost my daughter while trying to be a good mother!
Anyways this ordeal has caused me to literally have a “broken heart” , according to my Cardiologists! They saw me with my daughters as they were growing up. They saw the 3 of us and a very huge kind of love that we had together! It got lost somehow due to illegal and immoral behaviors on her part ; that I was just trying to end !! I am in chronic pain 24/7 and I suffer and have been diagnosed by several specialists with “full body RSD/CRPS” .. I’ve had 2 heart surgeries including two pacemakers! I have atrial fibrillation and I had a heart attack in 2005 & a CVA in 2006 with residual effects still. I have my youngest daughter and my husband, who have stuck by my side. I have good friends and a couple that are like “sisters” to me! I thank God for all of them every day! I pray for my abusers each day! I pray that one day I’ll open my door and be surprised to see my oldest daughter and my granddaughter standing there! But lovingly…and not with the past looming !!
Mothers day has been so hard for so long! I remember my 1st one…I was 9 months pregnant. My father dropped by our apt for about 10 mins. My then husband was at work all that day, I was home alone and could not drive; because of how close It was to my due date! My father brought me a hanging plant as a “gift ” he said “from my mom”… I asked him “why didn’t mom come ?” He told me she “was embarrassed of me.., because I was so huge and fat!” I was mortified and cried for the rest of that day!! I cried because I felt ugly, fat, hateful, disgusting, useless and just plain ugly; when I should’ve been able to feel healthy, proud, excited and happy!!
I remember as mom was dying of cancer, my dad was carrying around a cloth bag with what they said was “over 300 cards from friends & family”! He said my mother was a “saint”. He made a shrine out of her ashes and an urn, flowers and candles ! They were married 50 years!
My dad turned around and was dating within 6 months and re-married within a year! He was divorced a year or so after that! I remember how he spoke terribly of my mom. Now, I alwAys only said what truths happened to me at her hands and their hands, but I never said disrespectful things or hateful lies about her! After saying she was literally a “saint” and carrying around “proof” of how well she and they were loved somehow by the number of well wishers cards; he then told his new wife how “horrible life was with my mom”! He spoke to her of how he was “verbally bashed and abused” by my mom, his wife of 50 years!!! Yet when I said it, I was called a horrible liar and punished greatly! (But I said it about both of them!)…
He told “Nina”, his new wife of one year or so, all of that after what he had said about me, what he’d called me, how he’s treated me since then and after the “altar” he made or the shrine he had set up for her….When he met Nina, he tossed my mother’s ashes in the St Clair River and got rid of the shrine!!! But not before making a few “ashes” holding necklaces for us!! Very creepy & eerie…!!
Soo When he and Nina divorced, or I should say when she divorced him because he literally “does not know what the truth is!!” She wrote to me and explained this to me! She also told me that she “always believed me but when shed stick up for me, my dad and brothers would verbally abuse her”!! The letter is below!
Anyways, these are my thoughts on thus “Mothers day” weekend ahead! I am very thankful for my youngest daughter and my wonderful husband and friends! I’m also thankful this year for “Luna”, our little white cat!! My beautiful and unconditionally loving feline!

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Pain…what It’s Like To Be In Pain 24/7


************************************************I found this post on one of the many forums that I am on, sharing and ranting and comforting others about my journey with Chronic pain.

The poster could never find out who was the original author for this, so I am posting this giving credit to the original author whoever that might be.

Thank you to the unknown author for such well said words to help us all~
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**This is the letter to “normals”- People who don’t personally live with chronic pain, but for those who know people with chronic pain**

These are the things that I would like you to understand about me before you judge me..
Please understand that being sick doesn’t mean I’m not still a human being. I have to spend most of my day in considerable pain and exhaustion, and if you visit, sometimes I probably don’t seem like much fun to be with, but I’m still me –stuck inside this body.

I still worry about school, my family, my friends, and most of the time; I’d still like to hear you talk about yours, too.

Please understand the difference between “happy” and “healthy”. When you’ve got the flu, you probably feel miserable with it, but, I’ve been sick for years. I can’t be miserable all the time. In fact, I work hard at NOT being miserable. So, if you’re talking to me and I sound happy, it means I’m happy. That’s all. It doesn’t mean that I’m not in a lot of pain, or extremely tired, or that I’m getting better, or any of those things. Please don’t say, “Oh, you’re sounding better!” or “But, you look so healthy!” I am merely coping. I am sounding happy and trying to look “normal.” If you want to comment on that, you’re welcome to.

Please understand that being able to stand up for ten minutes doesn’t necessarily mean that I can stand up for twenty minutes, or an hour. Just because I managed to stand up for thirty minutes yesterday, doesn’t mean that I can do the same today.

With a lot of diseases you’re paralyzed, or can’t move. With this one, it gets more confusing every day. It can be like a yo yo. I never know from day to day, how I am going to feel when I wake up. In most cases, I never know from minute to minute.

This is one of the hardest and most frustrating components of chronic pain. That’s what chronic pain does to you.

Please understand that chronic pain is variable. It’s quite possible (for many, it’s common) that one day I am able to walk to the park and back, while the next day, I’ll have trouble getting to the next room.

Please don’t attack me when I’m ill by saying ” You did it before” or “oh I know you can do this!” If you want me to do something, then ask if I can. In a similar vein, I may need to cancel a previous commitment at the last minute. If this happens, please do not take it personally.

If you are able, please try to always remember how very lucky you are to be physically able to do all of the things that you can do. Please understand that the “getting out and doing things” does not make me feel better, and can often make me seriously worse. You don’t know what I go through or how I suffer in my own private time.

Telling me that I need exercise, or do some things to “get my mind off of it” may frustrate me to tears and is not correct. If I was capable of doing some things any or all of the time, don’t you think I would? I am working with my doctor and I am doing what I am supposed to do.
Another statement that hurts is: “You just need to push yourself more, try harder..” Obviously, chronic pain can deal with the whole body, or be localized to specific areas. Sometimes participating in a single activity for a short or a long period of time can cause more damage and physical pain than you could ever imagine. Not to mention the recovery time, which can be intense. You can’t always read it on my face or in my body language.
Also, Chronic Pain may cause secondary depression (wouldn’t you get depressed and down if you were hurting constantly for months or years?), but it is not created by depression. Please understand that if I have to sit down/lie down/stay in bed/or take these pills now, that probably means that I do have to do it right now. It can’t be put off or forgotten just because I’m somewhere, or I am right in the middle of doing something.
Chronic pain does not forgive, nor does it wait for anyone. If you want to suggest a cure to me, please don’t. It’s not because I don’t appreciate the thought, and it’s not because I don’t want to get well. Lord knows that isn’t true. In all likelihood if you’ve heard of it or tried it, so have I. In some cases, I have been made sicker, not better. This can involve side effects or allergic reactions. It also has includes failure, which in and of itself can make me feel even lower. If there was something that cured, or even helped people with my form of chronic pain, then we’d know about it. There is worldwide networking (both on and off the Internet) between people with chronic pain. If something worked, we would KNOW. It’s definitely not for lack of trying.
If, after reading this, you still feel the need to suggest a cure, then so be it. I may take what you said and discuss it with my doctor. If I seem touchy, it’s probably because I am. It’s not how I try to be. As a matter of fact, I try very hard to be “normal.” I hope you will try to understand my situation, unless you have been in my shoes, but as much as possible, I am asking you to try to be understanding in general. In many ways I depend on you -people who are not sick. I need you to visit me when I am too sick to go out.
Sometimes I need you to help me with the shopping, cooking or cleaning. I may need you to take me to the doctor, or to the store. You are my link to normalcy of life. You can help me to keep in touch with the parts of my life that I miss and fully intend to undertake again, just as soon as I am able.
I know that I ask a lot from you, and I thank you for listening. It really does mean a lot to me. ♥
**i found this reported by someone on Google +…since its not their original work, I wasn’t sure if they’d want their name given… But if I find out they do…I will surely put it up! Thank you “Jason”

(*I always must give credit where credit is due!”)

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